Kayt Sukel explains how to help a child become a better risk taker. A key is to let them explore and experiment.
“We need to let them mess up, which is sometimes the hardest- especially when you know better and can see from a distance how bad they might crash and burn.”
By letting them gain the experience they need, they can begin to reason these things out themselves. We can’t put them in a bubble, they need to learn that glass can be broken, that you can fall out of trees, or off a skateboard.
Sometimes it may seem like the exact opposite of a parent’s job, but it’s important to let them fall down and get back up on their own.
It’s also important for kids to understand that successful risk taking requires a lot of preparation and hard work. Most things in life do not come to you automatically, but rather require focus, dedication, and deliberate practice. It’s pivotal that kids learn how to self-regulate their own emotions.
“When they fall down and start to cry, we can’t just give them a cookie or a new toy. They need to learn how to self-soothe and figure it out.”
You can give them a hug and a pep talk, but it doesn’t mean you are going to hold on to them and give them what they want for the rest of the day because they had one minor setback. Ultimately, you are going to handicap them if you do that.
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Kayt Sukel is a cultural scientist, passionate traveler, science journalist, and risk taker, who loves tackling subjects spanning love, sex, risk, neuroscience, travel and politics.
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